Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Lasting Impressions

I’m not perfect (like you didn’t know that already) -  throughout my life, I’ve done a number of things wrong – too large a percentage to ignore, in fact. Even if you engage in the wrong behaviors, you need to do what you can to help promote the right ones.
Before I go further into this, let me make this perfectly clear: I am NOT advocating people deliberately going out and doing the wrong thing. At all times we should be trying to live the right way – do what we know is right, avoid what we know is wrong – but we are not angels, we are HUMAN BEINGS, and so we have to deal with the fact that we are all IMPERFECT.
We have to recognize that we are going to fail at times, but we still need to make the right impression for the sake of society. It is best if you have actual SUBSTANCE (truth, facts) behind the impression you are making, but for the sake of whatever relationship you are in (Job, Marriage, Parenting, Leadership, Politics, Foreign Relations, what have you), you must at least know how to use the right SYMBOLISM.
This is something that seems to have become lost in our 24-by-7 news cycle, everything out in the open society. No one seems to have an understanding that
1.     Everything you do can be seen by others.
This is because: lies are impossible to maintain forever (no matter how expert you think you are or how many people help you do it, inconsistencies will seep through), and nothing is private (not in public places, not in your mailbox, not in your trash can, and certainly not on the internet.)
2.    It isn’t uplifting to see humanity’s (and especially our role-models’) warts – it lowers all spirits rather than elevating anyone.
Think of the abundance of “reality TV” that’s out there – some of it is just plain ugly (like the Jerry Springer show on steroids), but even the ones that try to display us at our best tend to also emphasize the warts. The subliminal message that’s delivered here is “why should I try to do the best or right thing when no one else does?”
 We get a lot of negative guidance from political figures (who should REALLY understand the importance of impressions since it’s a MAJOR PART OF THEIR PROFESSION.) We’ve had a couple of recent presidents who have promoted doing the wrong thing and then doubling down by publicly lying about it (and yes, I’m talking about the last 2 Democrats to hold the office; a Republican doesn’t generally get the cover from the press or even his own party to be so blatantly dishonest. Heck, George W. was branded as a liar by people who can’t even be honest about what the meaning of “lie” is  - or of what the meaning of “is” is, for that matter.) This isn’t discouraged in the least by a citizenry that more and more thinks “Well, what do you expect? All politicians lie.”
3.    We are all role models.
That last one probably has a lot of you scratching their heads. How can I say that, when even “certifiable” role models (celebrities, sports figures, etc.) complain that they shouldn’t be treated as such? But they are, no matter how much they protest.
And so are all of us. Whether individually, or cumulatively, what we decide to proudly publicize of our own failings, what we decide to label as okay “because everyone does it” makes a difference. Folks: two, or 300 million, or 6 billion people doing the wrong thing doesn’t make it right, and sticking your head in the sand doesn’t either.
Let’s go back and look at the line I wrote in the 2nd paragraph, specifically the phrase “let me make this perfectly clear”; for those of us who experienced Watergate, this phrase has a particular connotation tied to lying and cheating – in essence, you will get the sense somewhere in the dark recesses of your mind that you can’t trust the veracity of whatever this person says next (even if you aren’t old enough to know what Watergate means, I believe this phrase has seeped into our POP CULTURE enough to hold that connotation.)
I DELIBERATELY chose this wording to illustrate a point about making impressions – you need to be aware of how things appear. Our current president, choosing to illustrate instead, his own tone-deafness, has chosen to use several variants of this (“let’s be clear”, “I want to be clear”, etc.) so frequently that it should probably be followed by a ™ mark. If you’re trying to get people to believe you, this is not the phrase you should use (especially if you already have an honesty deficit operating against you.)
We all need to be aware of the impressions we are pushing.
What does it tell your kids if you don’t make a point of impressing them with the difference between right and wrong? How do you expect them to try if you behave as though it doesn’t really matter? I know we live in a world where “Do as I say, not as I do” is considered a joke; still, there’s still value in in at least saying the right things. But you have to go beyond that – you need to act the role as well.
What does it tell people if you say something is heinous or unforgivable and won’t be tolerated, but then you don’t do anything serious about it (or, worse, yet, you show how important it is by continuing your perpetual vacation)? Do these lines in the sand have any real meaning? Why would your adversary (or anyone else) treat it as important if you don’t either? Why would anyone take you seriously.
You can’t write everything in washable paints. They may be great for your kids to use around the house, but they don’t leave much of an impression (they’re designed to go away, you know – we use them when we’re afraid people are going to make mistakes – when we’re afraid to commit.) If you want to show that you’re serious, act like it. Maybe you should use permanent markers instead.
Just saying…
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William Mangieri’s writing (including his latest ePublication: “The Wolves Will Come”) can be found in many places, such as:
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Monday, August 18, 2014

Tolerance, Anyone?

The following post may contain some flippant treatment of serious EVIL – reader discretion (and appreciation of sarcasm) is advised.

Tolerance seems to be making the headlines a lot lately.
ISIS (or whatever they’re calling themselves) doesn't believe in diversity of anything. There is only ONE WAY to talk, ONE WAY to act, ONE WAY to believe, and if you aren't aligned with that ONE WAY, then you should be DEAD (Wait - their ONE WAY or DEAD is actually TWO ways; am I’m being unfair to them? NOT.) They don’t TOLERATE the existence of another way, and they will force you to ACCEPT theirs.
Hamas is a little less picky – they don’t seem to care WHO dies – Israeli or Palestinian, Jew or Muslim, Man, Woman, or Child, as long as they get what they want, and Israel is wiped off the face of the earth. And then whoever else they decide needs to go so they can get whatever they think they’re entitled to. We can’t be TOLERATED, and we need to ACCEPT that.
I’m blessed to live in one of the most diverse, inclusive, and particularly TOLERANT countries on Earth. TOLERANCE means that even if you don’t ACCEPT how someone looks or believes, you don’t have to approve of them, or like them, or give them what they want, and you don’t KILL them for it.
Think about that – a country where citizens have the right to keep and bear arms, with a mix of every ethnic, religious, social, cultural group on Earth, and, for the most part, we manage to exist side by side without killing each other. How is that possible?
We were founded on the principles of the rights of the individual (not the group), and deep down, most of us understand that each individual has the right to exist as much as any other. We can all believe what we want – there is no enforced religion or GROUP THINK.
Of course, it would be hard to tell that nowadays. Where it used to be okay for people of different beliefs to discuss those differences openly in public, a POLITICAL CORRECTNESS has emerged that makes WRONG THINKING punishable by the loss of the right to speak, or earn a living. TOLERANCE is no longer enough; there must be total ACCEPTANCE (of course, only of the “right” things); anything less and you will be shunned.
The greatest damage done by political correctness is that we can no longer have open, honest debate in this country. What used to be considered common sense is now backwards and oppressive, and anyone who expresses a thought to the contrary, defends ages old cultural beliefs is intimidated and silenced through insults character assassination. Once you start having to hold back on our TRUTH and CANDOR for some things, it cripples our ability to contribute fully on anything.
Science is not consensus driven – you must have all the facts (not just your own) in order to make discoveries and solve problems. Silencing (or hiding) an opinion or fact that doesn't fit your template doesn't prove your theory.
The same goes with any other attempt to understand a situation and come up with solutions. Shouting down other viewpoints, calling the opposition names and threatening them for speaking openly and honestly doesn’t solve any problem – it just creates more.
Group think isn’t thinking. Things will only get worse if we can’t talk openly with AND HEAR each other. Failure to listen to and tolerate ideas other than your own makes true understanding impossible.
(And you thought I was going to say something about Ferguson, Missouri. I am SO TIRED of group identification overpowering the honesty and integrity of the individual…)
Don’t just go with the herd. Raise your head up above it all every once and a while, and make sure you know where the cliff is.
Just saying…
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William Mangieri’s writing (including his latest ePublication: “The Wolves Will Come”) can be found in many places, such as:
·         His Amazon Author page: http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B008O8CBDY
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Monday, August 11, 2014

What’s Your Story?

We are all story-tellers of one sort or another.
I reconnected with someone from my past a few years ago, and periodically, seemingly impromptu, he would regale me with a story of something that had happened to him. At first I thought “how fun, to have such an interesting tale in your head. I was particularly impressed with how polished it seemed, and wished that I was able to recount my experiences in such a clear and fascinating manner.
I became less (actually differently) impressed when I’d been around him a couple of months and heard these same stories repeated over. And over. And over, again.
It turns out that my friend had a series of tales that he had honed through years of repetition into a veritable catalog of personal legends. This isn’t to say they weren’t true (although they MIGHT have been embellished a TINY BIT); if anything they were better than a factually accurate retelling, because the way they were told gave insights into my friend that were more valuable.
How we all embellish and repeat stories that say something about who we are (or who we want to be)
I was never athletic (I didn’t have much interest during my youth – a majority of my athletic activity – such as it was - occurred after the age of 25); I have events that I remember and tell repeatedly – about chasing an opponent across a football field and making up his twenty-yard lead to tackle him inside the 5-yard line (I never give up.) Or making the same leaping catch between first and second base TWICE during the same inning in a company softball game (I am capable of surprising people), or pulling off a couple of neat plays in a sandlot football game that were so impressive that the next time we picked sides I was only SECOND TO LAST (I don’t know how to MAKE myself popular.)
There are also non-sports stories involving the Treasury Department (it’s not always good to think out loud), my French teacher’s eye test (don’t just do things – remember WHY you’re doing them), Russian spies (make sure you know who you know), a bee that flew in my ear and never came out (some things stay with you), and the time I was born in India (sometimes I can’t help making stuff up.) All of these say something about who I am (and no, it isn’t that Walter Mitty lives.)
What’s your story? What event is it that you find yourself thinking about and repeating? Especially the ones that your significant other has heard so often that they (lovingly and tolerantly) roll their eyes? Do you know what you’re really trying to tell people?
Just saying…
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William Mangieri’s writing (including his latest ePublication “The Wolves Will Come”) can be found in many places, such as:
·         His Amazon Author page: http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B008O8CBDY

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Monday, July 28, 2014

Why Indie Publishing?

I’ve been doing this ePublishing thing – actually, INDIE-PUBLISHING (since a sale to a “traditional” publisher could result in an ePublication, and createspace means I’m not JUST ePublishing, either) for 2-1/2 years now. There are plenty of people out there sharing their experiences, so I thought I’d take a few moments to document mine, for what they’re worth.
Why did I start indie-publishing? Well, let’s start with why I write.
I’m a creative sort. (This isn’t to say I didn’t play sports – but what little I did has become more story than exertion – part of the lore that defines who I am.) Throughout the earliest portion of my life, I gravitated towards “the arts” :
Music: I started playing trumpet in 4th grade (still have it) – then French horn, B-flat Horn, Alto horn and Trombone, with a bit of guitar thrown in. I wrote a dozen or more songs in my late teens / early twenties (I still have them moth-balled in my guitar case.) I’ve always enjoyed singing, but I didn’t discover karaoke until my late 30’s.
Acting: (formalized pretending – that thing most of us stop doing when we grow up) I got that first taste of living in an alternate reality in 6th grade, and it’s what I went to college for the first time (BTW – I enjoyed rehearsal far more than performance.)
Writing / Story-Telling: I’m blessed / cursed with an overactive imagination. As far back as I can remember I made things up – in my teens it became more formalized and I actually wrote down poetry, plays, stories, even made a couple of starts on a novel. Of course, none of this still exists other than in my mind.
By the time I reached my late twenties, “reality” and taking care of “every-day life” curtailed much of this. Things like nowhere to play my trumpet without disturbing others, no time to be involved in acting, too tired from working over-time and putting myself through school at the same time for a bankable degree (you know – practical, marketable, geared toward getting a “real job”) left me with no energy to do anything else.
Most all my creative outlets fell by the wayside. I believe this happens with most people (we can’t all make money doing what we love); it takes energy to “make a living” and “live” at the same time. But I encourage EVERYONE to do what you can to keep your dreams alive and not too far from your life. You need them for your heart and soul.
In my late 40’s I was hit with my midlife renaissance. I realized I’d let almost all the creativity disappear from my life – I needed to find an outlet. I decided on writing because it was something I could do anywhere at any time.
I could have just written and never let anyone see it, but that doesn’t fit with my personality. I have a little “show-off” in me (“A little?” my wife would say; she’s endured the embarrassment of me singing – loudly – in public more times than anyone should have to bear), and once I’ve created something, I need to share it. As much of a loner as I am, it seems pointless, otherwise.
I continue to pursue traditional publication of my work, but doing that without success means a very small audience (only the editors who are  rejecting me) would ever see my stories.
And then along came the ease of ePublishing and print on demand. I can cut out the middle man (the gatekeepers are no longer just the professional Editors – now they’re you, the Readers.) I can put my stories out there, and if anyone sees something that strikes their fancy, they can buy it and read it.
Why not just give it away instead of selling it? Two reasons:
1       1. Selling is validation that my stories are worth reading (and don’t we ALL need validation?)
2.   I have a hard time finding time to write – the more I sell, the easier it is to justify that time. And who knows - if I make enough money I could do this full time.

We all need to dream, don’t we?

Just saying…
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BTW - my last 2 ePublications were done on smashwords and Amazon only. I decided to stop ePublishing directly on Barnes & Noble's “nookpress” tool because:
1. I’ve run into frustrations ePublishing on nookpress. It might just be browser compatibility issues, but I wind up using a combination of IE, Chrome & my Nook to get through the process, and that’s just TOO MUCH WORK.
2. Stories published through smashwords are still available through their premium catalog at Barnes & Noble (although delayed a week or so.)
3. It appears that in many cases my royalties are higher on a sale to Barnes & Noble through smashwords than through nookpress.
4. Why take the extra time to prepare a third document when the first two result in the same exposure? This gives me more time for writing.

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William Mangieri’s writing (including his latest ePublication “The Re-Entanglement of Grant Decker”) can be found in many places, such as:
·         His Amazon Author page: http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B008O8CBDY

Connect with him on Facebook at:   http://www.facebook.com/NoTimeToThink

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Come Back, Shame!

(No, I’m not misspelling dialogue from the western classic…)
There used to be this thing called shame – there were social mores – norms – taboos – established standards of accepted behavior; guardrails that we used to function as a society. It helped to reinforce standards, and even violators of the rules helped strengthen society’s overall behavior by not advertising that they were doing it, because the village was going to give them an earful if they did.
Just like when you might spank your child to emphasize how they’re not supposed to touch a hot stove to keep them from WORSE things than a spanking (of course, it’s hard to know whether anyone still spanks their kids with the threat of arrest or having your kids taken away), we would also use shame to express our disapproval of what someone was doing, because there are worse things than shame, too.
Shame - used on a regular basis – was part of what helped build a conscience.
That’s probably not a welcome concept these days – negative reinforcement is – well – NEGATIVE, and we live in a world where we are told we should only use POSITIVE reinforcement – a reward (payment) for doing the right thing instead of punishment for doing the wrong thing. Of course, it’s hard to know who has really done the right thing when everyone gets a prize now just for being there…
Look – I know some people actually have empathy, and learn not to do things to other people because of how it makes those other people feel, but if you think about it, it’s still rather self-serving – we feel bad if we make other people feel bad, and we don’t want to feel bad, so… The Golden Rule seems wonderfully altruistic, but when you tell people “treat others as you want to be treated”, some of those people do it because of intimidation; they don’t want to be treated badly themselves.
We used to keep a very clear connection between a person and their actions. Society has worked hard to separate the two. Some time back (maybe in the 60’s), spankings became this horrible thing that no one should inflict on their children. We started worrying about what happened in this serial killer’s past that made them kill, and blamed ourselves that they were sociopaths instead of holding them responsible for the choices they made. More recently, a lot of emphasis has been placed on the “I like you, I just don’t like what you did” school of parenting, because we certainly didn’t want to “Johnny’s” self-esteem by holding his actions against him.
Look around you. If you’re like me, you see your world in upheaval – social standards are falling by the wayside. The underpinnings of our culture (social, economic, political - what have you) are being vilified as though they are the cause of the problems instead of the foundation civilization needs to survive. Things that have been considered common sense, ethical and moral practices have been turned on their head and ignored by people who have been raised to have no regard of RULES or the REALITY behind them.
Society has taken away spankings and shame as teaching tools. What are we using to take their place? Is it possible that the upsurge in self-centered sociopaths (by which I mean people who don’t care about other people and won’t conform to social norms – which includes bullies and mass-murderers, as well as people who can stand in front of millions and claim that they feel your pain, and then continue to cause more of it) is due to a failure to adequately chasten these children (and that’s what they still are), with the result that they think whatever they want they should have?
Just saying….
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William Mangieri’s writing (including his latest ePublication “The Re-Entanglement of Grant Decker”) can be found in many places, such as:
·         His Amazon Author page: http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B008O8CBDY

Connect with him on Facebook at:   http://www.facebook.com/NoTimeToThink

Monday, July 14, 2014

Salesman(wor)ship

I’m not a salesman.
In my youth I tried selling door to door (not my idea – a family home/ business.) I was never comfortable with walking up to someone’s door and bothering them to try to get them to buy something.
In my late teens, I applied for an advertised office job and was told that the job had been filled, but they did “happen to have” some sales openings. I spent a week training to sell Filter Queen vacuum cleaners (this shows you how in short supply good salesmen are – they have to trick people into trying the position.) It was a really good vacuum, and if I’d had $400 (in the late ‘70’s) and needed a vacuum cleaner I would have bought it, but asking other people to buy one just wasn’t working for me.
I could probably sell something in a store – but that’s only because people are coming in intending to buy. That’ not really selling – it’s just customer service. A real salesman would know how to get the people to come into the store in the first place.
I was thinking about the woeful state of my ePublishing sales. Yeah, I’ve only been trying this for a couple of years, and I’m supposed to be patient and watch those sales figures slowly climb as I build up stock (stories) on my shelves, but I don’t think it’s happening the way it’s supposed to.
It could just be that my product isn’t any good, but I don’t think that’s it; I’ve gotten close enough to a “traditional publisher” sale on some of my stories to merit a personal (instead of form) rejection. If quality was all that mattered, it should translate into sales – not into the drought that 2014 is turning into.
Fact is, there’s A LOT of product out in the market, and A LOT of competition. It isn’t just the ability to write – I have to be able to SELL that writing; show someone that I have stories out there, and convince them that they want to read them.
This adds to my conclusion that SALESMEN ARE GODS.
This may just be how our culture works, but I think it’s something more tightly bound into human nature, and explains why CAPITALISM is ultimately the fairest and most productive economic system. People decide what they want and what they are willing to buy / sell for what price. Someone who can sell can influence the process.
But it’s not just about goods.
Who can get buy-in? Collaboration (pulling groups of people together for a common goal) counts on somehow getting these people to cooperate. Historically, this used to be done this by force of arms or religion (some places still do it this way), but there is a built-in resistance, a less than 100% effort given, when you coerce people. In the modern world (USA, anyway), we count on our salesmen to convince people that either we have what they want or they want what we’re selling. In every transaction, every relationship, we have to be able to sell – our ideas, our desires, our product.
(Politics IS sales.) Life is a big bartering session, and if you want something, you have to be able to convince the other party that they want what you have to offer, too. A good salesman finds the WIN-WIN to make it happen.

I want money in my pocket. You want to be entertained. I have a story you’d be willing to pay to read. There; that should work.

Just saying….
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William Mangieri’s writing (including his latest ePublication “The Re-Entanglement of Grant Decker”) can be found in many places, such as:
·         His Amazon Author page: http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B008O8CBDY

Connect with him on Facebook at:   http://www.facebook.com/NoTimeToThink

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Making Things Up

Making things up is a BIG part of who I am. Some of my numerous character flaws come into play here:
1) It is very difficult for me to just say “I don’t know”, stemming from a reputation of being the top of the top (back when our fates were all sealed in primary education.) Whenever I raised my hand, it was with the answer – not a question. I could have shaken this reputation when I moved to Texas in the middle of high school, and NO ONE IN SCHOOL knew about my reputation EXCEPT ME (but you see, that was the problem – I’d read my own press clippings, so to speak.) It has taken me nearly 40 years to get semi-comfortable with “I don’t know.”
2) I’m analytical to a fault, so when someone asks me a question that I don’t really know the answer to, I work out the answer on my feet. This is reflexive, and although I do a pretty good job of thinking things into a reasonably believable answer, I’m sometimes wrong. This is further complicated by my failure to explain that I’m making my best guess (because “I don’t know”), so my answers are remembered a statement of fact rather than supposition.
3) I have an overactive imagination which feeds on and creates unintentional streams of word and image associations. I find my mind wandering off topic far too often (and this is not improving with age.) I can’t admit that I’ve lost focus (and “I don’t know” what we were talking about), so I pretend (former acting skills fully in play) that I’m keeping up.

When confronted with the opportunity to say “I don’t know”, the voices in my head start whispering in a panic: “Quick Bill - make something up!” (a hazard of imagination, intelligence, and ego, to be sure.) It takes a lot of self-control (something else I find in short supply) to not listen to that advice.

Some people refer to fiction writers as paid liars. Now, I have lied on occasion – I am not proud of it - but I have never been paid to do it. (Regardless of my amateur status, lying is still a despicable act- I’ve reduced mine to a respectable level. That doesn’t mean my reputation is fully recovered…) I have been able to rehabilitate myself to an extent, and make a sincere effort to keep my fiction on the page as it were. I am a work in progress (or is it that I’m a piece of work?)

I think the paid liar label is somewhat unfair – the art of fiction is built around imagining things as they aren’t and fabricating it so that others can see what you are imagining. There is an understanding – a covenant with the reader - that the content is not intended to be taken as real. We’re actually BUILDING A DIFFERENT REALITY.

A paid liar would be someone like Baghdad Bob ("There are no American infidels in Baghdad. Never!"), who deliberately stated known falsehoods in an attempt to pass them off as the truth (a plethora of recent Administration spokespersons also come to mind. “You can keep your doctor.” “It was a spontaneous protest.” “It was a couple of rogue IRS agents in Cincinnati.” “We lost the emails when the hard drives crashed.”)

Caution: Making things up can damage your reputation. Once you’ve lost trust, it doesn’t come back without A LOT OF EFFORT. Sometimes, it doesn’t come back at all.

Just saying….
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William Mangieri’s writing (including his latest ePublication “Broken Down: Detective Jimmy Delaney Collection #1”) can be found in many places, such as:
·         His Amazon Author page: http://www.amazon.com/-/e/B008O8CBDY

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